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#ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#I remember saying to my ex-coach that I couldn't wait until Boomer was as well-schooled as Baye. He's there now.#ed_op#IMG src="http://forums.equestrianconnection.com/richedit/smileys/Happy/12.gif"#ed_cl# But he'll never be the completely trustworthy schoolmaster she was.#ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#You're right about the limited years, and I do feel that crunch too. But if you put too much pressure on yourself to get there too fast you will most likely be disappointed, some pressure helps accomplish goals, but too much will be counter-productive, and when things don't go well you feel it more. Set smaller goals that work toward the larger one, and don't be so hard on yourself or your horse when things don't go well.#ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl#graciespook wrote:#ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#I've been dreaming a lot of my old horse lately, and I wake up and keep wondering how much longer with this guy until he's as good as she was. #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl#
#ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#HOW does one work through the fear though?? HOW do you force yourself to not be afraid? I've been struggling with this for MONTHS...years, actually, if you include the time I had Dali. If someone could turn on a switch and I all of a sudden felt no more fear, my problems would be solved. But no one has been able to do that. #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#There is a really solid schoolie packer at my barn. I'm thinking of asking for some lessons on him, to work on my confidence. And then maybe get the BO to work Tequila at the scary end of the arena, and also to work on her cantering. Back when he put the 30 days of training on her, I asked him repeatedly to work her at the scary end. He said he did, but never when I was there to watch. If I can see him work her down there without incident, I know that it'll give me the confidence to do it too.#ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl#Patricia wrote:#ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#I am sorry but I am in total agreement with Ruth. You went from Dali to this filly without a though. I still think you gave up a good horse and didn't give him a chance. FEAR does terrible things if you don't work through it. #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#I would be doing all my work in the so called scarey corner....till there is NO spook left in her. Start all your ground lunge work there. If your the only one with the problem she is sensing your fear. Then when mounted ride by this area without a care breathing regularly. Don't go down to the good end at all. Stay in that scarey half of the arena only. Then when she is calm work the whole arena. Like Rio said your forgeting your roots dressage and doing cowgirl lessons....Is that what you really want. Re-evaluate things...Like Ruth I wouldn't be so quick to give up....STICK IT OUT...Be positive. Maybe try a dressage coach. Get them riding her first 1/2 lesson and you finish. #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl#
#ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#Its tough isn't it? Fear is something to be slowly conquered. I had a bad fall over fences, and anything over two feet was scary. I slowly put it up and did exercises that made me feel confident. It helped quite a bit. #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#I think the schoolie would be good for you at this point, to supplement riding Tequila. I'm thinking of the same thing, just so I relax again and enjoy myself and get excited to ride my horse again. It isn't fear for me--its just relaxing and not so much pressure on our rides. #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl#chenders01 wrote:#ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#HOW does one work through the fear though?? HOW do you force yourself to not be afraid? I've been struggling with this for MONTHS...years, actually, if you include the time I had Dali. If someone could turn on a switch and I all of a sudden felt no more fear, my problems would be solved. But no one has been able to do that. #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#There is a really solid schoolie packer at my barn. I'm thinking of asking for some lessons on him, to work on my confidence. And then maybe get the BO to work Tequila at the scary end of the arena, and also to work on her cantering. Back when he put the 30 days of training on her, I asked him repeatedly to work her at the scary end. He said he did, but never when I was there to watch. If I can see him work her down there without incident, I know that it'll give me the confidence to do it too.#ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl#Patricia wrote:#ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#I am sorry but I am in total agreement with Ruth. You went from Dali to this filly without a though. I still think you gave up a good horse and didn't give him a chance. FEAR does terrible things if you don't work through it. #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#I would be doing all my work in the so called scarey corner....till there is NO spook left in her. Start all your ground lunge work there. If your the only one with the problem she is sensing your fear. Then when mounted ride by this area without a care breathing regularly. Don't go down to the good end at all. Stay in that scarey half of the arena only. Then when she is calm work the whole arena. Like Rio said your forgeting your roots dressage and doing cowgirl lessons....Is that what you really want. Re-evaluate things...Like Ruth I wouldn't be so quick to give up....STICK IT OUT...Be positive. Maybe try a dressage coach. Get them riding her first 1/2 lesson and you finish. #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl#
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