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#ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#I don't know that I'm ready to take this step yet. I think it's too soon. I've only officially owned Tequila since the middle of May. I almost didn't buy her because I felt at the time that she was too green for me. But I also felt that I could work with her, with help, which I've been getting. And she had other qualities that really attracted me to her (her gaits are soooo smooth and easy to ride). #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#The BO at my barn (who I bought Tequila from) is also a NH-type trainer (although he doesn't call himself that) and he put 30 days of training on her in August, plus I take 2 lessons a week from him. I'm considering dropping this down to one lesson a week. He's western and is teaching me all kinds of western stuff that I'm starting to think is not what I really need right now...things like pole-bending, barrels and roll-backs (at the trot only). #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#The problem is that I really don't know *what* I need. It seems that every time I try to "go it alone" things rapidly deteriorate. I suggested to him that he put some more training on her but he said that it would be cheaper for me to take the 2 lessons a week, and he would work with both of us. #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#My biggest problem with her is her spookiness in the indoor. And it's only at the one end. She's got a real issue with it, to the point where she fixates on it the minute I take her into the arena, and if anything happens down there, she's on edge and constantly spooks the whole time I'm riding her. For someone who is a confident, relaxed rider, this would be NBD, but for me, who tends to be very lacking in the confidence department, it's hard for me to deal with the constant spooking. If I ride her outside in the sand-ring or on the trails, she is great! No spooking at all. But in the indoor, she is always waiting for some "monster" to attack her.#ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#At this point, I'm not really sure *what* to do. My BO/coach "poo-poos" the whole thing. I think he thinks that I'm just a "silly woman", to be expecting to have a non-spooky horse. And I agree with him, to a point. Yes, *every* horse has the tendency to spook, but Tequila is waaay beyond that. She *looks* for an excuse to spook and seems genuinely terrified. I don't know how to deal with that! I guess I could mention to him about trying to find another (older) horse, but I think he would probably get upset with me. HE has no problems with Tequila when he works with her or rides her. He has no fear and doesn't understand why I do. And I am SURE he would think that I'm crazy, for wanting to replace her, since a) he bred her so has an emotional attachment to her, and b) she really is a very nice mare. I'm sure he thinks the problem is all mine...and I'm sure that it is too, but that doesn't change the fact that she needs a more confident rider than I am, and I need a more confident horse.#ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#Sigh...some days I wonder if I should just sell her and get out of horses for good. It seems as though I have NO luck in finding the right one #ed_op#IMG src="http://forums.equestrianconnection.com/richedit/smileys/Sad/11.gif"#ed_cl##ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl#Ruth wrote:#ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#Chenders - maybe you should get some more professional help with Tequila? I know you're attached to her, but why don't you keep your eyes open for someone with a steadier horse that might be interested in trading for something younger?
#ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#mwahahaha!!#ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#seriously girl - there is some good advice, all jokes aside! listen to some of us, and your rational side!!#ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl#graciespook wrote:#ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#And BT? Where are you hiding the valium? #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl#
#ed_op#/P#ed_cl##ed_op#P#ed_cl# #ed_op#/P#ed_cl##ed_op#P#ed_cl#you gonna make me kick you in the pants again woman!!??#ed_op#/P#ed_cl##ed_op#P#ed_cl#c'mon - you've worked very hard with tequila, and there are times that for a peiord, long or short, you'll hit a "plateau" where it seems like you're not going any further or not making progress, but don't give up!!#ed_op#/P#ed_cl##ed_op#P#ed_cl#remember how excited you were about her at first??! don't fret......there's nothing wrong with you being a bit worried about her spooking etc, after all she's still young..just becasue your coach/BO doesn't worry about it, doesn't mean it's not a valid concern for you. after all ....he's a yeehaw cowboy right? #ed_op#/P#ed_cl##ed_op#P#ed_cl#now back to you......dali wasn't the horse for you, and if you don't think tequila is the horse for you.........i would sit down and re-evaluate what your riding goals are...what type of horse you want to help you reach those goals, etc. can you picture yourself reaching those goals with tequila? if the answer is no, she's not the horse for you......then it's your decision, not your BOs, as to if you sell her - maybe he'll buy her back?#ed_op#/P#ed_cl##ed_op#P#ed_cl#no worries woman! or you either GS- you guys are both accomplished horsewomen, in your own rights, and it'll work out in the end. have faith & some confidence!!!!!!!!#ed_op#/P#ed_cl##ed_op#P#ed_cl# #ed_op#/P#ed_cl##ed_op#P#ed_cl# #ed_op#/P#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl#chenders01 wrote:#ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#Sigh...some days I wonder if I should just sell her and get out of horses for good. It seems as though I have NO luck in finding the right one #ed_op#IMG src="http://forums.equestrianconnection.com/richedit/smileys/Sad/11.gif"#ed_cl##ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#P#ed_cl#
#ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#Chenders, it's not him who's nervous of his horse...#ed_op#IMG src="http://forums.equestrianconnection.com/richedit/smileys/Teasing/17.gif"#ed_cl##ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl#chenders01 wrote:#ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# I'm a little nervous about broaching this subject with him though...I know he'll think I'm NUTZ.#ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl#
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