by *Giddy Up* » Tue Oct 25, 2005 1:29 pm
#ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#But even if he is JUST confused- I still think you two should take a break. It will clear both of your heads.#ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#It definitely isn't easy- no one ever said it was- I'm sure every single person on here who's been through a break up will tell you that at first it hurts like H***. But, time heals all, and as I said, if you two are meant to be, then you will feel even stronger when you do get back together and realize that YES, this IS meant to be. And, if not, then you are that much closer to being over him.#ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#And if it isn't meant to be, then there IS someone out there for you. I don't know, you may still have the blinders on. There are 4 stages of every relationship (heard this on John Tesh the other night)- the first is the in love stage- everything is roses and sunshine and your brain actually TURNS OFF parts of your brain that would normally tell you, "gee, this person is annoying when they do this". You may still be in that stage- still seeing him perfectly. Then there is the second stage, the falling out of love stage where you begin to notice that your SO has flaws. Then the third is the denial sort of stage, where you try to "fix" the person and get them back to the person they once "were" (I say it like that because most of the time, the person never was like that, you just saw them that way). Then the fourth stage is acceptance- realizing that you ARE two different people, but also realizing that you can embrace the other person's faults.#ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#It seems your bf either doesn't love you anymore or is in the falling out stage. Now, I can understand why you would think that he is just confused, because you guys are young right? and I think alot of young people (even people in their 20's) go through phases of confusion when they don't know what they want....#ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl# #ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl##ed_op#DIV#ed_cl#HOWEVER, at the same time, he still has to treat you with respect and give you the love that you deserve- this is where I think there is the problem. Regardless of how confused he is, he shouldn't be jerking you around. Break-up. Then a couple months down the road when he knows how he feels, and IF you are still interested, then maybe you two can start something up again.#ed_op#/DIV#ed_cl#
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